thoughts by ruby

Being single

I am a little anxious to touch this subject. I fear I may change my mind in two days. First of all let's get the logistics out if the way. I was born in 1968... you can do the math. I've never been married and I have birthed no children. Sorry, no satisfactory explanations are available. And the purpose of this "thought" is not to explain why I'm still single. I won't try that.

But what I can share is some of the things I have learned and experienced in these years of flying solo.

(this is not an all exclusive list)

1. I love children. I value children. They are a treasured resource. When a child tells me out of his/her own free will... "I love you" I feel "wowed". It is an honour bestowed on me to be a auntie to so many children. It brings tears to my eyes and I feel so blessed by God.

2. I am flexible. There are so many opportunities available for me because I don't have the responsibility of a family. My world is huge.

3. I appreciate married people. Most of my friends are married. I value the stability of having families in my life as a single person. I also know the contribution I can make being involved with them.

4. My world allows me to learn where ever I can. I have a full time job that provides an education in itself; I take night courses when I can and I keep my library at home full of interesting things.

5. I spend my nights talking to Jesus before I fall asleep. When I wake up, He's the only one there for me to talk to. Those moments of solitude are moments spent with my Creator, my Lord and my Friend.

There are pitfalls to being single, I'm not unaware of those. There are blessings in a marriage that I can only dream of. I tell people who are on a diet to think of what they can eat, not what they can't. Sometimes a change in focus is necessary to be content. Which is what I want to be (whether single or married)... contented and ulcer free!!!

posted by Ruby Voigt @ 4:01 PM